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Music Plays when Gays are Murdered

November 25, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

Sometimes, comments aren’t “stupid” in the realm of homophobia, but outright hateful and unfathomable.  What reaction should a gay man have to comments such as this one?

oh and by the way another couple of gays killed in my neighbourhood [sic] for being gay, that is music to my ears.  from a proud homophobic. —k.ltwills.r495@googlemail.com

Outrage? Fear? Anxiety? Hate?

Oddly, I read that comment and had this momentary inner peace.  My insides went silent.  I closed my eyes, laid my head back against my shoulders and breathed deeply.   I realized that because of the hate that I have dealt with in my life and because of the hate that those I know have dealt with, that I am ready to do anything it takes to stop that hate.  But how do you stop a freight train with tax shelters [the church] funding their every move?  Do we sit back and become martyrs or do we “bash back“?  Well, by posting the email address to my blog, I’m excited to know that numerous spam bot engines will sweep it up and start sending all those wonderful “enlarge your manhood” emails to k.ltwills.r495@googlemail.com.  That is my bashing back for the time being as I continue my internal debate about the philosophy of bashing back.

Statistically speaking, hate crimes dropped last year to 7,726 hate crimes overall; however, hatecrimes against lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender persons increased by 5 1/2 %.  Due to the current political environment, that number is expected to rise markedly this year.

But what about hate crimes committed by gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons against other classes of persons?  Bash Back is a group of persons devoted to the theory of “gays bash back”.  They have received a lot of criticism from all categories, including other gays and lesbians.  Most of their antics/protests have been demonstrative rather than truly violent.  I consider the group to be radical members of the gay community, a Malcolm X type of initiative.  For decades the gay community has had it’s share of “Martin Luther King, Jr.’s”, perhaps it is time for us to become “Malcolm X”.  But then we would be committing the very crimes we worked so hard to enter into the legislature.  We would be committing “hate crimes” and although the result may be that we achieve the ultimate goal of civil equality, we risk loosing our own dignity.

Civil Rights for All, Means All

November 24, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

This edition of Stupid Things People Say About Gays gave me great pause.  I couldn’t decide if I could categorize it as “stupid” or if it was just a “different way of thinking.”  My fortune cookie at lunch today did say, “Your perception will switch.”  Interesting that it didn’t say change, but “switch.”  I was momentarily reminded of the song by Fem 2 Fem from the 90’s.  “Switch, I finally tried it, feels good…”  The article I pull this quote from appeared in Christianity Today.

One gay rights slogan goes: ‘We’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!’ National Review columnist John Derbyshire returns the challenge: ‘We’re here, we’re mildly and tolerantly homophobic, get used to it!’ It’s false, he says, to label everyone who resists affirming homosexuality as a dangerous lunatic. We just want to be permitted to live by our convictions.

The article as a whole was very gentle and wasn’t hateful or spiteful at all.  It was written by Frederica Mathewes-Green, author of The Illuminated Heart.  As a non-christian who tries to be tolerant of Christianity, I found myself thinking – How would I feel if a Christian were to tell me “We’re Here, We’re Jesus Freaks, Get used to it.”  Well, truth of the matter is I would likely roll my eyes and tell them that at some point they need to let go of their imaginary friends and grow up.  But that would make me intolerant of a majority that is quickly becoming a minority, and as someone who believes in civil rights for all, I have to consider who is “all.”

John Derbyshire, by way of the aforementioned article, suggests that Christians “… just want to be permitted to live by their convictions.”  I almost fell for it while reading the article, but the truth is they [Christians generally] want everyone to live by their convictions.  Unlike Gay people, Christians actively recruit, which, I suppose, is part of their conviction.

Now, we can agree on something.  As Christian’s want to live by their convictions, so do homosexuals.  Up until recently, the gay agenda was a myth and homosexuals did not actively protest at churches or other religious institutions.  However, after being told to live by the Christian’s convictions or be substandard in the eyes of the Law (not the Lord), gays have had enough.  Thus, your convictions have become to mean as little to me as my convictions mean to you.  After all, I believe it was your god that said, “Do unto others” and “An eye for an eye” and “Happy is he who taketh and dasheth thy little ones against the stones.”

Note:  Recently, a very dear friend of mine who believes herself to be a ‘Christian” became very upset with me for my use of the word.  Apparently, when making claims like “Christians don’t believe in gay marriage,” I was over generalizing.  Well, as I like to say, if the glass slipper fits… However, out of respect for my friend that believes herself to be a “Christian” and having a personal rule to never question someone’s faith, I make note here that my use of the term “Christian” applies solely to those that believe that Jesus Christ is our savior, the Bible is the verbatim word of God and that gay people are going to burn in hell.

Perception of Gay Causes Bashing

November 24, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Hate Crimes, LGBT News

There have been numerous comments over the last few weeks regarding gay people hijacking the civil rights movement (apparently no one told these people that civil rights is all inclusive, not just for select groups).  At any rate, many of those accusations have gone on to say that homosexuals have the exact same rights as everyone else.

I beg to differ on many fronts.  In this example of heterosexuals gone bad, the show Top Gears decides to write slogans on each others cars such as, “Hillary for President” and “Nascar Sucks” – in pink lettering nonetheless.  They then thought it would be a good idea to drive through the South were people aren’t real smart and associate pink letters with homosexuals.

The results are frightening.  The owner of the gas station storms out and says something to the effect of going to get the boys.  “Sho’ nough” the boys show up to take car of the faggots in the “hick town”.

The following is a link to the video. Watch what happens then claim that homosexuals are “equal”.

Top Gear – Bashed in Alabama

I’m ashamed to be from the South.

Does the States Interest in Gay Marriage Serve?

November 21, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

I have focused heavily on the religious right in my arguments about gay marriage and have neglected the non-secular arguments.  Today’s quote is in reference to a purported non-secular argument and reads as follows:

Homosexual relationships do nothing to serve the state interest of propagating society, so there is no reason for the state to grant them the costly benefits of marriage, unless they serve some other state interest. The burden of proof, therefore, is on the advocates of gay marriage to show what state interest these marriages serve. Thus far, this burden has not been met.  — Adam Kolasinski

The most harsh point in his argument is where he places the burden of proof.  In law, burden of proof is everything, almost.  In his example, he argues that because “homosexual relationships do nothing to serve the state interest of propagating society… there is no reason for the state to grant them the costly benefits of marriage…”  However, there is no burden of proof in marriage law on heterosexual couples to prove their relationship will benefit the states interest.  Let’s look at due process and equal protection under the law.

LOVING ET UX. v. VIRGINIA, 388 U.S. 1 (1967) was a historic case in the battle for civil marriage rights for whites to marry blacks (or blacks to marry whites).  Loving states:

These statutes [statutes banning interracial marriage] also deprive the Lovings of liberty without due process of law in violation of the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment. The freedom to marry has long been recognized as one of the vital personal rights essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness by free men. [emphasis added]

I make note, albeit somewhat sarcastically, that Loving does not say “pursuit of happiness between a man and a woman.”

Loving goes on to affirm that:

No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

Civil Marriage is law.  To deny any person the equal protection of the law, without due process abridges “the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States.”  In order for the law to deny such civil right, the State holds the burden of proof to show that such relationships would detriment society.  Mr. Kolasinski’s efforts to shift the burden of proof on those denied such liberties is false, misleading and improper under the 14th Amendment, Loving and good common sense.

Mr. Kolasinski is a Doctoral Student of Financial Economics.

Gay Mob Runs Christians out of Castro

November 20, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

Recently, a group of “Christians” were run out of San Francisco’s Castro District by a “Gay Mob”.  I love the elevation this story has received in calling it a “gay mob.”  Video footage of the incident shows a group of people being escorted by police while a group of homosexuals (and/or those supporting homosexual rights) are chanting things such as “stay out of our neighborhoods if you don’t like us.”  Christian right-wing organizations are appalled and outraged that they were not allowed by this mob to express their religious freedom.  Well, there’s a taste of your own medicine for you.  This incident has inspired this issue of “Stupid Things People Say About Gays”.

Cute how they tell us to “stay out of our neighbor hood if you don’t like us” My response, stay out of my country if you don’t like us! OUR country was Christian before it was filled with fags.
They are allowed to be disgusting in public, we are allowed to pray in public.

We have the last laugh in all of this, they’re the ones with no future. — genesis311311

First, I feel the need to say (although it may be considered a “bounces off me and sticks to you” sort of argument) that the welcoming of the “Christian” group into the Castro District was very similar to the welcoming bestowed upon homosexuals by “Christian” churches.  Everyone is welcome in the “Christian” church as long as you become an “ex-gay.”  The torment the “Christian” church berated on the homosexual is far more horrifying than “stay out” if you don’t like us.

Secondly, your comment stating “stay out of my country if you don’t like us” and using the argument that the United States was founded as a “Christian” nation obviously demonstrates that you have never been to a history class outside of “Christian” school (or just didn’t pay attention), never read a book not acceptable by the “Christian” teaching and have never had an independent thought which did not conform entirely to the way you are taught.  Examples of the founding of the United States not being on behalf of “Christianity” include:

  • The Declaration of Independence begins, “”We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”  I note that is says “they are endowed by their Creator” rather than they are endowed by my God.  Although it is unarguable that most of the founding fathers were “Christian”, it seems that they intended to leave God out of the letter of the law.
  • The United States Constitution fails entirely to mention God.  It is an obvious omission and certainly was not an error.  Most historians and even theologians believe that the omission was intended to prevent a theocracy wherein the church would have more power than the President – as was the case with the Catholic church’s involvement in politics in Europe.
  • “In God We Trust” was placed on currency in the U.S. during the Civil War, not upon the founding of our Nation.
  • “Under God” was not in the Pledge of Allegiance until the McCarthy era [1954] when it was added.
  • The Treaty of Tripoli, signed in 1797 (note: that was not long after the 1776 “founding” of our nation) by Pickering and then President John Adams  states, “As the Government of the United States…is not in any sense founded on the Christian religion–as it has in itself no character of enmity against the laws, religion, or tranquility of Musselmen–and as the said States never have entered into any war or act of hostility against any Mehomitan nation, it is declared by the parties that no pretext arising from religious opinions shall ever produce an interruption of the harmony existing between the two countries.” [emphasis added]
  • In 1786, an Act for Establishing Religious Freedom (Jefferson again) was passed in the Assembly of Virginia.  It stated, in parts:

…that our civil rights have no dependence on our religious opinions

…that the impious presumption of legislators and rulers, civil as well as ecclesiastical, who, being themselves but fallible and uninspired men have assumed dominion over the faith of others, setting up their own opinions and modes of thinking as the only true and infallible, and as such endeavoring to impose them on others, hath established and maintained false religions over the greatest part of the world…

…that to suffer the civil magistrate to intrude his powers into the field of opinion and to restrain the profession or propagation of principles, on the supposition of their ill tendency, is a dangerous fallacy, which at once destroys all religious liberty, because he being of course judge of that tendency, will make his opinions the rule of judgment, and approve or condemn the sentiments of others only as they shall square with or differ from his own… [emphasis added]

…that the rights hereby asserted are of the natural rights of mankind, and that if any act shall be hereafter passed to repeal the present or to narrow its operation, such act will be an infringement of natural right.

See: “The Writings of Thomas Jefferson Memorial Edition” (ME), Andrew A. Lipscomb and Albert Ellery Bergh, Editors, 20 Volumes., Washington, D.C., 1903-04. Volume II, Appendix, pp 300-303

I highly recommend those that feel the United States was founded as a religious nation to see Our Godless Constitution, by Brooke Allen and the countless books, articles and information available (and cited above).  I also refer them to the U.S. Constitution for more precedence regarding this issue.

Gays to Burn in Hell and Get F&#$ed

November 19, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

Content PG13 (or R for the ultra conservative):  I warn in advance that the “f” word is used in this posting.  If you are afraid of seeing one of the “seven words you can’t say on t.v.” in print, then please consider reading other posts on this site.

Sifting through all the negative stereotypes and idiotic comments regarding gay people has sent me on a path of self discovery.  During my quest, I discovered that putting hand warmers in your underwear on a cold night feels really good, I also discovered that there are short winded homophobics in the world.

An example can be found in the following quote:

fuck all faggots period.
burn in hell motherfuckers!!!!!!!!!! Shadowhound (23 years old)

This is one of my personal favorites as it truly shows how enlightened people have become.  “Fuck all faggots period.”  I can’t decide which part of that is my absolute favorite, the “Fuck all faggots” or the “period”.  The reason this is so fantastic is because if Shadowhound were to actually fuck all faggots, he would be a “faggot”.  I’ve debated whether this was intentionally idiotic or if he really did not realize that the very thing he was arguing against would result from the proposed action to stop it.

So, to you Mr. Shadowhound (and as a response to “burn in hell motherfuckers”) I say, “Pray that you’ll stop believing in God.” – certainly as oxymoronic as your proposal.

Thou Shalt Not Kill – Moses “Teish” Cannon

November 18, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Hate Crimes, LGBT News

The small amount of media coverage regarding the murder of Moses “Teish” Cannon has been confusing at best and unremarkable at most.  What is known is that Teish, who self-identified as a woman, was murdered in Syracuse, New York on November 14, 2008 after being invited by a family friend to a party.  Currently, the only motive reported for the terrible crime is that she was “gay.”

This is where the news media stumbles and I stumble in an effort to provide the proper respects to Teish’s memory.  Was Teish a transgendered person who, indeed, identified the former himself as a herself, or did Teish identify as a gay man?  The answer to this question is only relevant for purposes of writing this article and adding yet another victim to the growing list of persons murdered because of their sexuality or gender identity.

I feel great sorrow for Teish’s family and friends, and I extend my most heartfelt sympathies.  The same sorrow I have felt for countless other victims of senseless crime.

Police are still investigating the murder in order to “decide” whether it is a Hate Crime.  Well, the glass slipper fits – wear it.

News coverage of Teish’s murder has been negligible; another slap in the face to a community already feeling the effects of hate after the passage of Proposition 8 in California.  The majority has taken our rights and our children and our brothers and sisters, yet we still stand strong.  We too shall overcome.

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Hate Wins in California Results in God’s Wrath

November 18, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

Peaceful demonstrations on the part of homosexuals took place all over the country on November 15, 2008.  The demonstrations were part of Join the Impact’s National Day of Protest.  We must remember that educating our government’s people will effectually educate our government.

But how do we change the minds of those that have spent the last 200-ish years being taught that “God hates fags” without seemingly challenging God and alienating ourselves from those that are taught “God is love”?

During a September 14, 2008 appearance with Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwell stated that the fall of the Twin Towers was a result of:

“…throwing God out of the public square.  The abortionists have got to bear some burden for this because God will not be mocked. And when we destroy 40 million little innocent babies, we make God mad. I really believe that the pagans, and the abortionists, and the feminists, and the gays and the lesbians who are actively trying to make that an alternative lifestyle, the ACLU, People for the American Way — all of them who have tried to secularize America — I point the finger in their face and say, ‘You helped this happen.’

Many gays and lesbians were mortified by such comments by evangelicals after the fall of the Twin Towers and even more startled when the levees broke in New Orleans and similar accusations were made.

On November 4th California voters voted pro-chicken but anti-gay.  Was God angry?  You betcha – California is now burning.  Could this be because California voters felt that gays weren’t equal in Gods eyes?  God now seeks his vengeance on California for breaching the main foundations of Christian ideology, “Love thy neighbor.”

I can imagine that evangelicals will disagree.  They will argue that God is thankful for following “his” will being done in California.  Perhaps they will even state that the cause of the fire was not God’s anger, but Satan attempting to destroy the God fearing people of California.  Or perhaps the argument will be that it is God’s anger, but not because of gays, but because the vote for Chicken’s Rights really pissed him off when chickens are clearly satanic fowl.

Gays Attempting to Redefine Marriage By Nullifying State’s Involvement

November 17, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

In this issue of Stupid Things People Say About Gays, I’m going to focus a little more on the “Gay Marriage” issue which has obtained wide news coverage over the past couple of weeks.

Focus on Families, a purportedly Christian organization, has released arguments against Gay Marriage and publishes them on their website.  The following Argument is taken directly from that site:

An even greater objective of the homosexual movement is to end the state’s compelling interest in marital relationships altogether. After marriages have been redefined, divorces will be obtained instantly, will not involve a court, and will take on the status of a driver’s license or a hunting permit. With the family out of the way, all rights and privileges of marriage will accrue to gay and lesbian partners without the legal entanglements and commitments heretofore associated with it.

This is obviously an argument of the desperate which has no fact basis whatsoever.  Last I checked, Gay Marriage did not seek to overthrow heterosexual marriage.  Certainly their have been many jokes thrown about stating that if gays can’t get married, heterosexuals should not be allowed to and thus the law would be equal to all parties.  Regrettably, the consequences would be all encompassing – loss of jobs resulting from no Family Court system, no “wedding planners”, less use of the local VFW hall for receptions, etc… etc…

What Focus on the Family has missed in their argument is that gays are asking for the right to GET married, not the right to dismantle marriage.  They also don’t realize that this argument completely voids the argument that marriage is not a civil issue.  They clearly state that the state has a, “compelling interest in marital relationships altogether.”  That compelling interest is exactly why all committed couples should be given the equal status of “married” by the state.

We’ve also heard a lot of comments about “redefining marriage.”  Although I can’t argue that marriage will in some ways require redefining, I do deny that any such redefinition would degrade heterosexual marriage.  This argument is a scare tactic used to propagate homophobia in the most grotesque sense – vaguely.  “You are trying to redefine marriage!!!!”  Legal definitions have changed tremendously throughout history.  Our founders smartly wrote the Constitution and Declaration of Independence so that laws could morph into a working, united, equal system.  If legal definitions did not evolve and change, the words “negro” and “colored” would still be used to define “African Americans” by law and the word “property” would still refer to African Americans.  Personally, I’m thrilled that such words are re-definable.  We the homos of the world should not let such vague allegations serve to threaten us, but embrace them – “Yes, we do want to redefine marriage, just like they redefined property.”

I can’t even fathom the accusation that divorces “will take on the status” of driver’s licenses or hunting licenses.  Is their anything intelligible in that false, completely unfounded accusation?  That allegation makes it sound as though gay people are looking to have a drive-thru wedding chapel/divorce court (which drive-thru wedding chapels already exist in Vegas without the help of gays).  Heterosexuals are doing a fine job of destroying the institution of marriage themselves.  Adding countless, loving people into the category of married will not harm, but strengthen that institution.

Join the Impact – National Day of Protest

November 15, 2008 By: jaysays Category: Community Outreach, LGBT Action Alerts

I hope this momentum lasts in the gay community. A National Day of Protest has been planned for November 15th at 1:30 CT (check here for your here  local information).

Yours truly will be attending.  I just hope I can decide on a sign.