Giving Up Hope for a Gay Tomorrow

Giving Up Hope for a Gay Tomorrow

December 31, 2008 Commentary Thought of the Gay 2

Staying motivated is often the most difficult thing when it comes to LGBT activism and human rights generally.  The odds are against us, yet we cannot lose.  Losing is not an option in this battle because every time those that propagate hatred against us are victorious, they gain power.  We may loss battles, but we cannot lose the war.  Why?  Our lives are at stake.  This is not an issue of marriage, it is not an issue of Due Process or Separate But Equal clauses.  We have our lives to lose and I believe that my life, and the life of those around me, is worth fighting for.

Yesterday, my hope and motivation faltered.  Sometimes, even I lose focus and wander into the land of despair.  I start to have terrible thoughts like “we’re going to lose” or “where is everyone else.”  I start to feel alone, tired and scared.  Especially when the very leadership I call upon doesn’t respond.

Yesterday, you likely heard a loud thud noise.  My hopes and dreams of equality slammed to the ground while I browsed local HRC websites in South Texas looking for information on the National DOMA protest for January 10th. I checked every local LGBT organization I could think of – all of their websites – NOTHING.  I emailed San Antonio’s HRC over two weeks ago.  No response.  I contacted the “organizer” in one city (two weeks ago) offering to volunteer – no response.  I contacted her again thinking she’s likely busy and missed the email, no response.  I also checked Austin’s Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce website which has a calendar of LGBT events – January 10th, nothing listed.  I checked San Antonio’s Gay and Lesbian Community Center’s website – not listed.  I emailed San Antonio’s Gay and Lesbian Community Center, the email was returned undeliverable.  We are relying on these local organizations to lead us – but perhaps it is time that we learn to lead ourselves and to play by our rules.

I was devastated.  I looked inward for the answers to the questions that are already starting to roll out into the blogospheres “when, where, how is the DOMA Protest going to work when there is so little information available?”  Today, I spoke with a dear friend who I haven’t spoken with in a couple of weeks and she reminded me of the importance of human rights and human dignity.  She reminded me that being tired or frustrated is fine, but that if I give up, I lose.

So, as we ring in the new year, I challenge each of my readers to download the letter to Obama and the signature pages [link].  Start obtaining signatures today!  Don’t wait for January 10th. Send it to your friends, your neighbors, your family and have them sign it and start getting signatures as well.  Have them send it on to their family, friends and neighbors.  It is time we each step forward individually and swallow our fear and make a difference. It is time for us to stop waiting for someone to speak out for us and start speaking out for ourselves.

Stand up my LGBT brothers and sisters.  Stand up and be counted.  Run with me toward victory because victory is our only option.

Instructions for the letter to Obama:

1) Download the letter;
2) Sign the letter;
3) Get others to sign the letter;
4) Scan it and submit it to the upload page (to be provided by JTI circa January 10) JTI has since stated they want the hard copy of the letter, please mail the original signatures no later than Monday, January 12, 2009 to:

Join The Impact
PO Box 141491
Columbus, OH 43214

If you are a blogger, post this information to your blog.  If you have a website, a gay friendly business – anywhere on the web… circulate the information via link or write your own.  If you use Digg or Reddit – put this information there.  Print multiple copies and take them to your friends.  We don’t have to wait until January 10th to gather signatures or sign the letter or to have others sign the letter.  We can do this, we can win, we must be victorious!

Remember, a full address is not needed but a zip code is required.

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2 Responses

  1. Daniel Williams says:

    THANK YOU, I’ve been looking for any info on this, I just moved to Austin from Dallas where their is a BIG protest planned forr tommorrow, if you hear anything, please let me know.

  2. Justice says:

    I feel you completely. This is the letter I wrote to the Seattle Join The Impact!


    I apologize if you are not “in charge” when it comes to the Seattle join the impact, I was given your name and email address and told you were the person in charge. I am disappointed and disheartened by the lack of information in circulation concerning the rally that is supposed to happen on January 10th.

    There has been little done to educate the community (in my own opinion) as to what we’re doing this for, what we’re trying to accomplish by it, where it’s going to be, what’s going to happen, who is going to be there, what they can expect.

    I was surprised to find there was another event planned for the 20th of December. It appears the same effort, and resources were put into that event as have been put into this event.

    What does it say to the community at large when we lack discipline and organization to move people to action, young and old a like. We are not using technology in the way that we should be, we are not calling on the community to assist and grow this movement.

    I have been in the military and know the work it takes to mobilize masses of people. What happened on the 15th of November was a back lash of emotion from the Nov 4th election. That will not be duplicated again. From here on out it will take proper planning, both strategic and tactical to ensure we are moving this movement forward.

    It is easier to get those people who are on the fence to choose a side when they feel there are masses of people behind them. I hope that we do not do a disservice to our effort by the perceived lack of effort right now.

    I do not mean to be a complainer, and am offering to help. This movement is important to me. As a gay, black, male, who served in the Air Force as an Officer under don’t ask don’t tell, I feel like I’ve experienced just about everything this country has to offer in the form of discrimination and bigotry. I am ready to move forward. I feel this is the time, but it is going to take a concerted, organized, and tenacious effort on our part!

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