Even straight people who support gay rights can struggle with what to tell their children about gay relationships. We’re barely comfortable talking about straight relationships. And for many straight people, sex is front and center, covering up the real person.

Let me tell you about my friend at work. Last fall, there was a movement to send postcards to Obama, asking him to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act, DOMA. I bought forty postcards, addressed and stamped them, then sent an email to folks at work that I knew support gay rights. This is a dear friend. She comes to me and says “Tomorrow I will let you know how many postcards I need.” Ok.

Ms. California, Carrie Prejean, recently spoke out on Dobson’s “Focus on [White Anglo-Saxon Protestant Heterosexual] Family” about the question posed by Perez Hilton during the Miss USA pageant stating:

“I felt as though Satan was trying to tempt me in asking me this question.”

But what is the question that Perez Hilton, as Satan’s tempter, posed to Prejean?

“Vermont recently became the fourth state to legalize same-sex marriage,” he said. “Do you think every state should follow suit, why or why not?”