Month: May 2009

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: One Gay Man, 157 Opinions.

What goes through the mind of someone who is gay? If you listen to the Christian right, somewhere there is a magical place where people wait in line for hours to sign up to be gay. Because it’s a choice, right? “Hmm. I’ll choose the life where I will face discrimination, fear, loneliness, rejection, lack of rights and possibly risk my life. Yea, that one sounds better.”

I came across an interesting post on the Advocate, a long running, well respected LGBT newspaper. The post started in September of 2006 by a young Christian man who hates being gay and is praying that his faith will give him the strength to overcome being gay.


May 22, 2009 3

Stupid Things People Say About Gays: There Aren’t Enough Gay People to Worry About Their Rights

Compared to many of the Stupid Things People Say About Gays done during the course of this series, this one is perhaps only a small slight, but the ramifications of this sort of ideology can result in absolute horror:

“There aren’t even that many gay people let alone gay people who would get married and need benefits!!!!!!!!!!!” Youtube User bwickedintense

This statement may be true to the extent that there are far more straight people than gay people. Of course, to get an accurate count, you would first have to define what “gay” is. Does “gay” include bisexual people, and if so, does it include bisexual people living in a monogamous, heterosexual relationship? Dr. Kinsey originally opined that 1 in every 10 people is gay.


May 22, 2009 1

Closet Talk: Becky’s Story – A Mother of a Gay Man Comes Out

Last night on Closet Talk I spoke with Becky. Becky’s son, Tony, recently came out of the closet leaving Becky to make difficult conclusions and realizations as she tried to balance her personal beliefs with her love for her son. Becky reached out to friends and hit the books to learn about the subject of homosexuality and coping with her son’s coming out.

One book which Becky states helped her tremendously was When Homosexuality Hits Home: What to Do When a Loved One Says They’re Gay by Joe Dallas. In fact, Becky even offered the book to Tony’s father to help him come to understand more about his son’s sexual orientation and what effect that has on the family.


May 21, 2009 0

Is It Ever O.K. To Out a Closet Politician: Sisters Talk Radio

Tonight, I was a participant in Sisters Talk Radio Shows’ “Is it Ever O.K. to Out a Closet Politician.” Genia Stephens, the hostess of Sisters Talk Radio, founder of gaywallet.com and blogger extraordinaire, along with Spaz and Chistophersays joined in discussions. Special thanks to Genia for opening this conversation and allowing me to participate.

From the show page:

“The new film Outrage discusses closeted gay politicians who vote against any law(s) that would provide equality to members of the LGBTQ community. Some of these politicians even encourage the passing of anti-gay laws.


May 20, 2009 2

San Antonio Police Chief Asks for a Little Love and Trust from LGBT Community

The San Antonio Police Department has come under fire lately from Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender activist after police allegedly used derogatory comments against a lesbian couple during a home raid. The women, Lindsey and Carol, had been at home for the evening when police charged through the door advising, “We have a warrant.” Evidently, a warrant had been issued after an anonymous informant who had been assisting the SAPD for over 2 years claimed that a man named “Randy” had been seen with methamphetamine in the home.

Unfortunately, after the police entered the house, they allegedly made several lewd and derogatory comments about the couple including many references to their sexual orientation. The outrage from the community was swift and resulted in numerous emails to Police Chief, William McManus, resulting in him contacting the San Antonio Stonewall Democrats to advise them that he wanted to speak to the LGBT community about the situation.


May 18, 2009 4

LGBT for Straight People – geekgirl’s own story

I would be a hypocrite if I didn’t write about my own life experience in getting to know people who are gay. Mysteriously – and truthfully – I don’t recall learning that some people are gay. It just kind of became something I knew. In many ways, I consider myself lucky that I came of age in the late 60s, early 70s. Yes, I believed in the hippie messages of peace, love, accepting other people, fairness, and justice.

My family was a typical white Anglo-Saxon Protestant (aka WASP) but we weren’t exactly rich. My father never went past 8th grade and he always did physical labor. It wasn’t until I was an adult that I realized we lived at the poverty level. (She’s straying, where is this going?). Here’s where I’m going. Even with being white and straight, I knew the world wasn’t fair. I knew that kids with money had an easier time, I knew rich kids got into Ivy League schools, thanks to their alumni parents and I knew that women were supposed to stay home and have babies.


May 18, 2009 0

LGBT Notable News Happenings (May 7, 2009 – May 13, 2009)

Marriage Issues in The UK – Our community has been fighting for LGBT rights around the world and the UK is no exception. Looks like our brothers and sisters in Ireland have decided, according to a poll, that Civil Partnerships are not good enough for them either. The LGBT community in Ireland joins us in solidarity for marriage equality.
Health Insurance Obstacle for Couples – Gay and Lesbian couples, especially those with families, find additional difficulties in obtaining health insurance. Some employers do offer options for Domestic Partners but those options (when available) can be costly and legally daunting. Even in states with Legal Domestic Partnerships – some employers end up deferring to DOMA and do not make the insurance available.
Helem Protects LGBT in Beirut – the only overtly gay rights organization in the Arab world is preparing for a campaign to overturn the law which makes Homosexuality illegal. The organization put together what is believed to be the first gay rights protest in a downtown Beirut square where nearly 2 dozen gays and lesbians gathered.


May 18, 2009 1

Stupid Things People Say About Gays: Under Federal Hate Crimes, Church Will Be Responsible for Gay Bashing Parishioners

In another article full of misleading, inaccurate information [o.k. lies] the Church Executive is reporting that Hate Crimes legislation on the federal level will lead to the prosecution of those expressing the opinion that homosexuality is a sin.

“But the 1,400-member National Religious Broadcasters says Christian broadcasters and even pastors covering culturally unpopular views, such as preaching homosexuality as sin, could face prosecution just for expressing their religious views because their teachings could be blamed for inciting violence.”


May 18, 2009 0

Isn’t There a “B” in LGBT? A Look at Biphobia.

There are many issues involving the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender community. As a gay man, it is easy for me to see the issues that affect me in my day to day life. It also isn’t difficult to make the jump from gay man to lesbian as far as social and legal ramifications. However, when asked to discuss the issue of biphobia within the “gay” community, I found myself at a loss. I tried to think of examples of biphobia and found myself walking down dangerous terrain of stereotypes and generalizations.

If you prescribe to the Kensian view of sexuality, that sexuality is fluid and we all fall somewhere on the scale between 0 (exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (exclusively homosexual), then we could, for the sake of simplicity, place bisexuals as anything other than zero or six on the scale. However, many sexologists have argued that Kinsey’s scale does not accurately show all the variances of sexual orientation.


May 17, 2009 18

Considering Modern Day Racism

I’ve spent the last several days in Mississippi, mostly speaking to elderly white people. During my youth, I spent a substantial amount of time in Arkansas and Tennessee, also surrounded mostly by white people. In fact, the town I was in only had one “colored” person, whose mother was white and father was black. According to the locals in the town, her mother was an anti-abortionist who was raped by a black man, thus they tolerated her presence. I quickly befriended her as I believed her to be my soul mate, a fellow outcast.

One of the things that has slipped my mind over the years about this area of the southern United States is the common usage of the word “colored” to refer to persons of African American decent. The phrase was so common in my youth, I never knew it was improper.


May 16, 2009 3