Breaking Up is Hard to Do: the Obama Administration and I.
Do you remember the pre-President Obama? He would stand before a crowd of say, 20 people at a community center talking about the American Dream and living it. At that time, and currently, he had a “wife” that he loved, someone he could turn to while speaking and say, “Thank you to my beautiful ‘wife’ for helping me live this dream.”
Well Mr. President, I have a dream too. I dream that someday I can stand before a crowd of people and say, “Thank you to my beautiful ‘husband’ for helping me live this dream.” I like the way that word sounds. It’s not too formal, like “significant other” or too whimpy like “partner” – both of which belittle what it is I have with my husband.
I’m sure President Obama has experienced horrible levels of discrimination in his life. He has fought hard and he has triumphed, setting a new era for American Politics. But through it all did anyone ever say, “Now, do it all again but were taking away your ‘wife?'”
That is what the Defense of Marriage Act and state bans on same-sex marriage are doing, plan and simply. They are taking away our ability to live the American Dream the same way that Mr. Obama has lived it.
Then I think back to Hillary v. Obama and how the “gays” were torn and our thoughts flowed freely:
Hillary says she supports us, but she helped draft DOMA, her ‘husband” put it into law, her ‘husband’ enacted DADT! We can’t trust her. But this guy, this guy, Obama, he’s been there too. He climbed out of the ‘Club of Disaffection!’
But to climb out, he used our rights as his ladder. I now find myself trying to find humor in how quickly we cast Hillary out for fear of her doing exactly what it is Obama is doing. As I said once before: Hillary would be like having Jesus in the White House – only the good Jesus, not the bad one “they” keep lying to you about.
But what can we do about it? Do we go flocking back to Hillary begging she forgive us for tossing her aside as Obama has tossed us aside? Do we go begging the Log Cabin Republicans to forgive us and help convince their party that now, as they need redefining, is the time to become strong allies with the gay community and reclaim the White House in 2012? Or do we continue to hold on to what it was Obama promised us and “be patient” even as he pulls the very same, hateful and deceptive language from a hat that those that would have us criminalized do, “pedophiles?”
Tonight, on Rachael Maddow, Howard Dean more than implied that we have to keep pushing for our rights as Martin Luther King continued to push for Obama’s rights.
“If I am not for myself, who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now — when? — Rabbi Hillel