Month: July 2009

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: Be Honest.

Same sex marriage: Are there any original thoughts left on this topic? I can’t believe how many times I have read, and seen refuted, the arguments against same-sex marriage. I still cannot find one that is reasonable. The Iowa Supreme Court could not find one that was reasonable. Neither could the California Supreme Court. The judges were interpreting laws regarding equality. For that, their punishment is to be called activists judges.

July 31, 2009 1

U.S. Military Accused of Executing Iraqi Gays

Two Iraqi refugees recently made a shocking presentation at an HRC sponsored event geared toward assisting LGBT people who have sought asylum to the U.S. from Iraq. In their presentation, the two refugees presented photos of U.S. soldiers allegedly lining up gay men to execute. One of the presenters, identified only as Hussam, showed upwards of 80 photographs depicting beheaded men alleged to be victims of U.S. Military executions because they were or were perceived to be gay. Hussam has since refused to turn the photographs over to media outlets.

July 30, 2009 0

Closet Talk: Jay’s Story | I’ve Been To Paradise

Tonight, Closet Talk flipped on its head with guest host, Tammy Defoe of taking the reigns and interviewing me. Before the show, Tammy and I talked and I asked her to come up with questions about my coming out and my life. What I wasn’t prepared for was her asking me about was my death – or the possibility of it.

Listen as I falter a bit when asked about the possibility of my demise at the hands of those that oppose LGBT equality:

July 29, 2009 2

Terroristic Attack at OutGames Labeled Hate Crime

The OutGames, a type of gay olympics, are taking place in Copenhagen. As is usual when gays gather, the games have been tarnished with protests and acts of hate. This most recent event marks the second “hate crime” to occur since the games began. The first involving the brutal beatings of three men participating in the events. This time, a 31-year old man threw a bomb onto the track and field of one stadium, then, less than an hour later, threw another bomb at a second event. Police were ultimately able to detain him. It is believed the sexual orientation of the participants spawned the attack.

July 29, 2009 1

A Reminder To Myself: Human Rights Include Everyone.

I’ve been reading through a Homophobia and Religion Forum on, and felt the need to jot out my thoughts least I forget them – perhaps I’ll need this reference point in the future, although I hope I won’t.

I’m gay, an atheist, and the grandson of a Church of God minister who, in the 40’s/50’s, preached that black people didn’t have souls. It was the Curse of Ham – they weren’t human, were sexually provocative, degraded the good christian society, etc. etc. I remember hearing all of this as a child and thankfully, never bought into it. It made no sense to me. I also remember talk of the “juke joints” and the sexually provocative nature of those establishments, which later came to represent (at least to those that wished to degrade a segment of the population for their own egotistical purposes) the entire community.

July 28, 2009 3

Stupid Things People Say About Gays: Gay Rights Aren’t Important Enough So Shut Up and Wait

Recently, a Prop 8 Summit was held to gauge the reaction of LGBT activists to placing an initiative on the ballot to overturn Prop 8 as early as 2010. The options, generally, were: (1) Put it on the 2010 ballot; or (2) wait until 2012. I won’t argue the points here as they are exhausting and, ultimately, pointless. The fact remains that a majority have taken away the rights of a minority and the minority should do everything in its power to regain the rights it once had.

I’m one of those people that tends to read comments on blogs and news items to get an idea of what other people think about things before just taking the author’s words for it.

July 28, 2009 2

LGBT Notable News Happenings – (July 11, 2009 – July 24, 2009)

Canada Health Collective Rx Denies Transgender – A new pharmacy opened in Vancouver, Canada – operated by the Vancouver Women’s Health Collective. The pharmacy however does not offer its services to Transgender or Transexual women. A group called the “Femininjas” went to the pharmacy during the hours posted on the Collective’s website and found the doors locked. A statement which appears on the Collective’s website reads: “We feel that it is essential that a woman be born a woman and have the physiology of a woman and the psychological experiences of living as a girl and a woman in order to embrace the work of the Vancouver Women’s Health collective.” The “Femininjas” are not the first group of ladies to be denied service.
Defendant in NY Murder Charged with Hate Crime – They were just attending a party – that’s all. It was last November on a Friday night. Lateisha Green was a Transgender woman – still in transition.

July 27, 2009 0

Stupid Things People Say About Gays: Gay Couples are “Allegedly” Denied Rights.

A conservative columnist, Calvin Freiburger, recently took on Wisconsin’s Domestic Partnership legislation in what he claims is a “reasoned argument” against the legislation (which is available not only to gay couples, but straight couples as well).

In his article, Mr. Freiburger makes many observations, including that the 30 day of living together requirement to qualify for Domestic Partnership benefits is “scant.”

July 24, 2009 7

It Was Only a Kiss, How Did It End Up Like This?

Here’s the Press Release for the Great Nationwide Kiss-In being planned nationally by the Davids (David Badash and David Mailloux) and Willow Witte. Please help spread the word:

“In response to recent events in three different U.S. cities, where gay or lesbian couples have been harassed, detained or arrested, for the simple act of kissing in a public place, two gay rights bloggers have joined forces with the national grassroots LGBT organization Join the Impact to create the Great Nationwide Kiss-In. Now, David Badash (of the New Civil Rights Movement), David Mailloux (of DYM SUM), and Willow Witte (Co-Founder and Director of Join the Impact) are seeking event coordinators throughout the United States to help organize these Kiss-In events.”

July 23, 2009 0

Closet Talk: Gabrielle Hermosa of

Gabrielle Hermosa joined me last night on Closet Talk. She is the author of and was a delightful guest. According to her website Gabrielle is:

“…a crossdresser, media artist, husband, part-time blogger and psychology enthusiast. I write about crossdressing, my personal life, and mix it up with fun and humor.

It is time we got out of the 1950’s when it comes to transgendered issues.”

We discussed many of the myths associated with crossdressing/crossdressers, how crossdressers fall into the umbrella of “transgender” people, her own coming out to her wife as a crossdresser, voice feminization issues and the sexual fetish of crossdressing.

July 23, 2009 4