Month: November 2009

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: Discrimination Ends at Home

Sometimes I have questions that don’t have answers. Sometimes I have questions that I figure if I write about them, it will bring on a barrage of angry comments. Then, I discover I still have the question. Today’s question is about prejudice. Is it better when people are overt about their prejudice, or is it better when they hide their prejudice? For me, the answer has become more complex. I have always believed that I would rather have someone be honest, even if it’s ugly, because then I know where they stand. I found myself debating the value of silencing ugly speech, and I surprised myself.

Prejudice, bigotry, stereotyping; One of my favorites is “It’s reaching the point where a person can’t say anything about homosexuals without being called names.”


November 30, 2009 0

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: The Homosexual Threat to Marriage

I enjoy when the opposition hands me material on a silver platter. Thanks to the Manhattan Declaration, we have confirmation of the real reasons why right wing fundamentalists and conservatives oppose same sex marriage. As of today, over 180,000 people have signed this Declaration. One voice, making the same statement. At last, our enemy has defined themselves.

One of the main founders of the Manhattan Declaration, Chuck Colson, was part of the Watergate scandal and went to jail for obstructing justice.


November 28, 2009 3

This Thanksgiving: Proud to be the T in LGBT

At one time I thought I really liked holidays. Over the years as we have lost family, I realized that what I really liked was the time off to spend with family and friends. Today I give much greater thanks for my family than ever before. I have truly learned what it means to have others you can connect to in heart, mind, and soul. My own journey is one that is unique, as we each are unique. I have been amazingly blessed to have been able to continue to have all of my family as close allies through my entire transition.


November 26, 2009 2

Stupid Things People Say About Gays: Adam Lambert Gave Up Being ‘Gay’

The controversy surrounding Adam Lambert’s American Music Awards’ kiss hasn’t ceased. In fact, it continues to escalate as person after person calls in complaint after complaint saying they just don’t want to see gays having sex on television.

Of course, Adam and his kissing buddy didn’t have sex on television, they simply shared a passionate kiss. It should come as no surprise that television watchers don’t care to see gay people smooching – particularly considering that even the smallest displays of affection have resulted in forceful detainment, harassment and outright bigotry of same-sex couples over the past several months.


November 24, 2009 4

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: Without Love, You Have Nothing

As we approach this holiday season, I can’t recall a year, in my adult life time, where religion has been used so much as a tool for discrimination and lies.

The Bible can be used to support or dismiss almost any point of view. Lately, its main purpose seems to be a tool to deny LGBT people not only rights, but also to degrade and dehumanize them. The Bible is a collection of writings, mostly found through archaeological means, written in ancient languages such as Hebrew, Greek and Aramaic, over centuries. It has undergone translation and censorship. It has been studied by many people intensely for years at academic institutions. Common sense tells me that God did not put pen to paper. People put pen to paper to write about their spiritual experiences and beliefs. It was written within the cultural context of the times.


November 24, 2009 7

The Question After the Vigils: Who’s Next?

Over the past few days, vigils have been held for Jorge Steven Lopez Mercado and Jason Mattison, Jr., the most recent victims of bias crimes. Jorge’s His murderer claimed that when he picked Jorge up, he thought he was a woman; however upon discovering Jorge was biologically male, the man went into a rage. It was a rage so violent that the attacker was burned, decapitated, and dismembered Jorge. Cause of death? HATE.

Jason Mattison, Jr.’s death was no less graphic. After his body was found, it was discovered that he had been raped, gagged with a pillowcase, stabbed repeatedly in the head and throat before his murderer shoved his dead body back into the closet we all struggle so hard to be free of.


November 23, 2009 0

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: Give the Gift of Equality

Eeeks. The holiday shopping season is upon us. Many of you probably participate in the holidays one way or another, regardless of your faith. One thing you can do this year is give the gift of Equality for LGBT people. Is it difficult to talk to your friends and family about supporting rights for gays and lesbians? Don’t we all have an Archie Bunker in our family?


November 22, 2009 1

LGBT Lessons for Right Wing Christians: How Hate Crime Laws Silenced the Church

The hardcore religious (they are anything but) right has become so paranoid that their twisted logic has led them to believe that they are the victims. Their solution? The Manhattan Declaration, a statement of Christian convictions on the matters of life, family, and religious liberty. Let’s go through parts of it.

“The preamble to the declaration reads, “While the whole scope of Christian moral concern, including a special concern for the poor and vulnerable, claims our attention, we are especially troubled that in our nation today the lives of the unborn, the disabled, and the elderly are severely threatened…”


November 21, 2009 9

Transgender Day of Remembrance and Ms. Lauryn Farris

What an appropriate day for me to do my first blog on jaysays.com. Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance. It is a day that we pause to remember those that have been taken from us only for being different. On the 19th the San Antonio Gender Association along with the MCC San Antonio sponsored our Observance.


November 20, 2009 1

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2009 – the Exclusion Question Answered

This year, I attended the Transgender Day of Remembrance ceremony at the Metropolitan Community Church (“MCC”) in San Antonio, Texas. The services were planned and hosted by the San Antonio Gender Association (“SAGA”) with the chapel being provided by the MCC. Ms. Lauryn Farris, President of SAGA, told those that it was a celebration of remembrance and of hope.

Ms. Farris spoke of the words of E.B. White:

“I wake up each morning torn between a desire to save the world and a desire to savor the world.”


November 20, 2009 5