The trial that may repeal the disgustingly discriminatory Proposition 8 in California (which denies couples of the same sex from entering into the civil contract of marriage) begins January 11, 2010. With that trial will come many “stupid things” that people say about gays. The opposition will be presenting their ridiculous arguments (including one where they claim gay marriage will result in children having sexual fantasies about their same-sex friends). Thus, it’s a proper time to start the Proposition 8 Series for Stupid Things People Say About Gays.
Let’s get things started (even before the trial begins): Hak-Shing William Tam intervened in the much talked about Perry v. Schwarzenegger case as an official litigant to defend Proposition 8 and continue to oppress same-sex couples. After doing so, a sad thing purportedly happened, Tam’s family began receiving threats and had property vandalized.
Although I completely understand the urge to beat the living hell out of those that oppress any people, I disagree with actually doing it. However, that’s a discussion for another time and place – we have to get to the stupid things people say about gays before I run out of typing space.
On Friday, Tam appeared in court and advised the justice:
Now that the subject lawsuit is going to trial, I fear I will get more publicity, be more recognizable and that the risk of harm to me and my family will increase. [emphasis added]
It sucks, doesn’t it Tam – to feel that people are targeting you and your family because you believe differently than they do or because you feel differently than they do? It’s a sad way to have to live your life. No one should ever feel their family is in danger because of their political opinions or social class.
In fact, I shouldn’t have to feel that way either. Unfortunately, I’ve felt that way the bulk of my life. I can recall very specific situations where my sexual orientation has nearly killed me. I can recall each and ever death threat, each hate email, and more particularly I recall the day I discovered the word “FAG” scrawled in the paint of my car door. I live with that fear every day because of people like you who think you deserve more than I deserve.
Now, please accept my most sarcastic apology if your tyrannical behavior has caused you to feel, even for such a brief period of time, the way you and those like you have made me feel since I was a young, scared little “sissy” boy. But there is a key difference in what is happening to you and what has happened to me. You have put yourself out there to attack and oppress a group of people; whereas, I just came out as a gay man.
Oh, and did I mention that Tam is the one making the claim that the kids will fantasize about their same-sex friends?
NOTE: For more of the column, Stupid Things People Say About Gays, click here.