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Texas GOP’er John Cornyn to Attend Gay Fundraiser

July 31, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Featured, Thought of the Gay

John Cornyn - Senator for TexasJohn Cornyn, the junior Senator from Texas with a staunchly anti-gay voting record, has announced that he will attend a fundraiser held by the Log Cabin Republicans, whose mission is to support “fairness, freedom, and equality for gay and lesbian Americans.”  The Senator is in charge of getting Republicans elected to the U.S. Senate.

Although Cornyn is a U.S. Senator, he’s still a republican from Texas.  The Texas Republican Party, in their official platform, have called for re-enactment of the Texas Sodomy Law, which was also known as the Homosexual Conduct Law and would result in criminalizing gay sex.  The platform also seeks felony penalties for civil officials who perform marriage ceremonies for same-sex couples.  The Platform caused LGBT rights activists to protest republican events in Texas earlier this month.

Cornyn’s decision to accept the invitation, in this bloggers opinion, is likely to mitigate damages caused to the Texas Republicans because of the platform; however, LGBT people make now mistake, in spite of this move, Texas’ Republicans aren’t going to save us from inequality.  In fact, Cornyn, and the overwhelming majority of republicans, are opposed to marriage equality, the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell and the firing of LGBT people based solely on their sexual orientation.  Cornyn, in response to inquiries about his acceptance offered this as one reason for attending:

I don’t want people to misunderstand and think that I don’t respect the dignity of every human being regardless of sexual orientation.

Unfortunately, Cornyn’s definitions of respect and dignity doesn’t include providing every human being equal opportunity and treatment under the law, a lesson Cornyn and his fellow Texas Senator, Kay Bailey Hutchison, have yet to learn.

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: Ridicule and Oppression is not Tolerance.

July 29, 2010 By: geekgirl Category: Headline, LGBT Lessons for Straight People

LGBT Lessons for Straight People - Why Equality MattersThe National Organization for Marriage, with its key speakers Brian Brown, Maggie Gallagher and Louis J. Marinelli III, are touring the country.

Their rhetoric has changed and I am the first to admit that there must be a genius, albeit it one without morals, on their team. They tried, and succeeded, in taking away marriage from California and Maine by telling lies. Do we all remember the Gathering Storm video? Letting gays marry will mean that:

  • homosexuality will be taught in schools (wrong),
  • will force churches to marry them (wrong),
  • gays will make bad parents (wrong), and
  • since gays are pedophiles, we will condone that sort of thing (very wrong).

The arguments went on:

  • Gays cannot procreate. [Well, procreation is not a requirement for marriage.]
  • Homosexuality is a choice and is deviant behavior (wrong).
  • If we make gay marriage legal, where will it end? We’ll legalize pedophilia and bestiality.

What they are really saying is that they believe gay people are sick.

Pedophilia is abhorrent and is mostly committed by people that identify as heterosexuals. Just ask the Catholic Church, they are experts in this area.

What they fail to recognize is that being gay is not a mental illness, it is not a choice. Couples who want to marry are simply trying to make a commitment so strong that they are willing to commit to each other legally and financially. Marriage is what stabilizes families; all families.

Their Biblical arguments are a failure. Again and again, they ignore the points about other sins in the Bible. They cannot seem to remember that adultery made it to the Ten Commandments, not being gay. They cherry pick from Bible verses. Proven wrong at the Prop 8 trial, they have now resorted to two strategies.

The first is that there is something special about the union between a man and a woman. We can all see this right? Special. I don’t remember the word special anywhere in our Declaration of Independence or Constitution. I have not seen our country evolve to take away rights. We have always read more deeply into our founding documents to expand rights. Should we have stayed in 1776 when white male property owners were the only ones who could vote and slavery was legal? We have come a long way in over 200 years. But we are not done.

Their second strategy is playing the victim card. NOM is now the face of tolerance. They want civil dialogue. Those who disagree should be civil. Yes, if someone wanted to take away my rights, I’m sure I would just sit by politely and calmly and let them. [Sarcasm].

Everyone’s love is special. Tolerance? That is what they call denying rights now? Tolerance?

Do you want to know what NOM supporters really believe? Visit their Facebook page Protect Marriage: One Man, One Woman. Here are some lovely screen shots of the discussions that occur there:

Judge for yourself, is this tolerance?

Protect Marriage: One Man One Woman

Protect Marriage: One Man One Woman

Protect Marriage: One Man One WomanNational Organization for the denial of Marriage to Loving Couples (a/k/a NOM)

National Organization for the denial of Marriage to Loving Couples (a/k/a NOM)
And if you still see “tolerance,” take a look at this video of Larry Adams, a NOM supporter and Rally attendee from Equality on Trial:

jaysays.com contributor geekgirlgeekgirl: Jude, the author of this post, is a straight woman, a mom and has been married for 32 years to the same wonderful man. She believes in Buddhism and attends the United Church of Christ. She is a molecular biologist, her best friend is a lesbian, and she believes that every human deserves equal rights, respect and a life free from hate, fear and discrimination. The only thing she hates is pickles. Her science blog can be found at LGBT Latest Science. More of LGBT Lessons for Straight People can be found here.

Stupid Things People Say About Gays – The American Dream Doesn’t Apply – Deshon Porter for City Council

July 28, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Headline, Stupid Things People Say About Gays

Do you believe that everyone should have a chance at the American Dream?  So Does Deshon Porter, a may-be candidate for Boston City Council in 2011.  Well, he believes he should have a chance at the American Dream, at least.  In fact, Deshon Porter is running around the web looking to garnish support for his candidacy for Boston City Council in 2011.  In an online petition, Mr. Porter writes:

this is to help me to get on the ballet for the boston city councel at large for the 2011 election if you believe that everyone deserve the chance at the american dream then join me send me to boston city hall I believe that the homeless sshould be in a home like invirment and given a chance to get back on there feet colleges should be open and afordable and not price to keep people out of a dream of an edcaucation all colleges should work with those who can not furnish there high school transcrip and a GED test should be part of the fee and tuition cost and for those who just want to work theGED test shouuld be free to those who are not working the MBTA should have more buses running and longer buses to help with overcrowding extra trains sshould run after 1am I will interduce ordenaces that will help boston get back to work. [all typographical and spelling errors as per the original post – consider this applicable throughout this post for quotes]

But that’s not the only place online Mr. Porter has been trying to spread the impossible American Dream.  In fact, you can find him posting on the Facebook wall for “Protect Marriage: One Man, One Woman

Mr. Porter’s Facebook page [screenshot here] goes on and on… and on… and on… and on… about his desire to find a life partner.  He doesn’t understand why women don’t want to be with him and he wants to be married – to live the American Dream.  He’s working on his degree and, as noted, running for City Council in Boston.  If successful, not only would Mr. Porter “interduce ordenaces that will help boston get back to work,” but he will not “support gay marrage at all” in spite of being an “independent democract.”

In other words, Mr. Porter does not “believe that everyone deserve the chance at the american dream” after all – only that straight people do.

Here’s to your happiness Mr. Porter.  I do wish you all the luck in finding someone to love, honor and cherish for the rest of your life and help you fulfill your American Dream.  I found mine – but because of people like you, I can’t get married.  Perhaps someday you will fight for all of our dreams rather than just your own.

*Thanks to my friend, Edward, for the tip-off.*

Do you believe that everyone should have a chance at the American Dream? So Does Deshon Porter, a may-be candidate for Boston City Council in 2011. Well, he believes he should have a chance at the American Dream, at least. In fact, Deshon Porter is running around the web looking to garnish support for his candidacy for Boston City Council in 2011. In an online petition, Mr. Porter writes:

this is to help me to get on the ballet for the boston city councel at large
for the 2011 election if you believe that everyone deserve the chance at the american dream then join me send me to boston city hall I believe that the homeless sshould be in a home like invirment and given a chance to get back on there feet colleges should be open and afordable and not price to keep people out of a dream of an edcaucation all colleges should work with those who can not furnish there high school transcrip and a GED test should be part of the fee and tuition cost and for those who just want to work theGED test shouuld be free to those who are not working the MBTA should have more buses running and longer buses to help with overcrowding extra trains sshould run after 1am I will interduce ordenaces that will help boston get back to work. [all typographical and spelling errors as per the original post]

But that’s not the only place online Mr. Porter has been trying to spread the impossible American Dream. In fact, you can find him posting on the Facebook wall for “Protect Marriage: One Man, One Woman

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Mr. Porter’s Facebook page [screenshot here] goes on and on… and on… and on… and on… about his desire to find a life partner. He doesn’t understand why women don’t want to be with him and he wants to be married – to live the American Dream. He’s working on his degree and, as noted, running for City Council in Boston. If successful, not only would Mr. Porter “interduce ordenaces that will help boston get back to work,” but he will not “support gay marrage at all” in spite of being an “independent democract.”

In other words, Mr. Porter does not “believe that everyone deserve the chance at the american dream” after all – only that straight people do.

Here’s to your happiness Mr. Porter. I do wish you all the luck in finding someone to love, honor and cherish for the rest of your life and help you fulfill your American Dream. I found mine – but because of people like you,

*Thanks to my friend, Edward, for the tip-off.*

Radical Racist Extremists Infiltrating U.S. Armed Forces – It’s ok… they are straight.

July 27, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Featured, Thought of the Gay

Sometimes, priorities are difficult to establish, particularly when dealing with issues of national security.  For example, when airplanes begin crashing into buildings, it’s sometimes difficult to choose between disappointing a room full of school children by not finishing a story or racing to action to defend whatever attack is happening.

A similar sort of decision was faced by the Obama Administration when forced to choose between having well-trained qualified soldiers serving our country or discharging them under the military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) policy.  The arguments against repeal of DADT generally revolve around “troop morale.”  The Department of Defense expressed concerns, by way of a survey sent to numerous troops regarding the repeal of DADT, that allowing gay and lesbians soldiers to serve openly in the military would diminish the ability of the military to respond. Apparently, the theory is that heterosexual troops would be so fearful of gays in the shower that they wouldn’t be able to focus on their jobs.

However, it seems that troops serving openly as a fascist, a racist, an anti-Semite or an outright quack is just fine by military standards.  The Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) recently sent a letter to Congress expressing its discomfort with the U.S. Military training men and women for combat who are openly anti-Semitic, anti-black or admittedly fascist for fear that such training will breed more domestic terrorists and claiming that such hate-groups are infiltrating the military.

In order to shed light on their concerns, SPLC provided numerous examples of online profiles of military members.  Many revealed a deep hatred for anything “non-White” American.  In order to illustrate my point, I provide examples of statements soldiers make in their online profiles that are not dischargeable offenses, followed by statements that would result in a discharge.

Acceptable Statement in the U.S. Military (no discharge):

I hate illegal immigrants with a passion and feel every true red blooded, white American should do whatever it takes to stop the foreign invasion and protect America and the American way of life so our children can grow up in a pure White America someday. – Click here for quoted profile.

Unacceptable statement in the U.S. Military (dischargable offense):

I’m gay.

Acceptable Statement in the U.S. Military (no discharge):

Dislikes – n*g*ers, Ky*es, Mexicans, I could go on, to [sic] much is detestable in this world right now.  People with no values for family. Race mixers.  – Click here for quoted profile.

Unacceptable statementin the U.S. Military (dischargable offense):

I’m bisexual.

Acceptable Statement in the U.S. Military (no discharge):

[I’m a] Proud White man, twenty six years old and tired of the destruction of our clean white culture and heritage, the poison of black culture in our society, and the illegal invasion of mexico into our sovereign nation.  – Click here for quoted profile.

Unacceptable statement in the U.S. Military (dischargable offense):

I’m a lesbian.

DADT is a witch-hunt policy.  Although the military claims, and even re-emphasized in March, 2010, that the policy was a “Don’t Pursue” policy and would be relaxed, all it takes is a bit of a jab from a third-party and an entire, honorable military career could be shattered.  Also in March, 2010, Jene Newsome, an Air Force Sergeant who played by the rules of DADT and served silently, was outed by police officers in Rapid City, South Dakota.  This wasn’t a case of Jene showing up in the local newspaper being dragged out of a gay nightclub by police as we’ve seen in the past, this was obviously a targeting ploy by the Rapid City Police Department, which after finding Jene Newsome’s marriage license from Iowa, reported her to their local Air Force base.

While Jene hunts for a new job, redefines her career goals and attempts to put her life back in order, a neo-nazi/fascist is serving openly with Jewish soldiers.  Whether that affects the moral of Jewish soldiers is yet to be determined as no study has been conducted.

NOM Bus Driver Signs Up for Marriage Equality Counter-Protest

July 21, 2010 By: Guest Blogger Category: Camp Gay, Featured

So, does everyone know who Louis Marinelli is by now?  He’s the National Organization for Marriage’s bus driver/head propagandist during their little 19-state “One Man, One Woman” anti-marriage tour.  It’s been going swimmingly for the NOMbies thus far, if his blog is to be believed; which it isn’t.

Nope, the real story with him today is something much more sordid, bizarre, and amusing.  Check out this screenshot taken from the event page  for the “Protect” Marriage Counter-Protest in Columbus Ohio:
NOM Marriage Tour - A Change of Heart?

Yep, that’s everyone’s favorite blogging bigot bus boy, signed up to join the good guys for a round of sign-waving, chanting, and what-have-you, all in the interests of repudiating his employers’ message of intolerance and hatred.  Far be it for me to offer any conjecture as to his motivations for this, but you must admit that it is a mighty interesting turn of events.  With friends like that, who needs enemies?  Am I right, NOM?

Michael Vernon Hunt is a glam rocking demi-hermit who thoroughly enjoys rocking any and all boats, even though he can’t swim.  He is a co-organizer of the Columbus anti-NOM gathering and an avid follower of all things activist-y.  In his spare time, he enjoys indulging in such geekery as organizing his digital music collection and overdosing on horror flicks.

A note from Jay: When I stumbled upon this, I got more laughs than one should.  I couldn’t resist sharing it and with Michael’s persmission, I present it here.  Thanks for the laughs, Michael (or should we be thanking NOM for the easy fodder?).

Federal Hate Crimes Case Illustrates Christian Myopia

July 21, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Featured, Thought of the Gay

James Byrd Jr. - Hate Crime VictimOn Wednesday, July 14, 2010 at 3:00 p.m., Federal District Court Judge Thomas L. Ludington heard Attorney General Eric Holder’s Motion to Dismiss in the Glenn v. Holder matter.  The case is the first court challenge to the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act.

To date, the Judge has not entered an Order granting or denying the motion.  According to a statement issued by The Thomas Moore Law Center:

The Thomas More Law Center… filed the federal lawsuit in February of this year challenging the constitutionality of the federal Hate Crimes Act, against U.S. Attorney General Eric H. Holder, Jr.  The Act adds violence based on ‘sexual orientation’ and ‘gender identity’ alongside race and color motivated violence deserving special federal protection by means of tougher criminal penalties.

The lawsuit was filed in the U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Michigan, on behalf of Pastor Levon Yuille, Pastor Rene Ouellette, Pastor James Combs, and Gary Glenn, the president of the American Family Association of Michigan (AFA-Michigan).

The sole purpose of this law is to use the threat of federal prosecutions and long jail sentences to silence Christians from expressing their Biblically-based religious belief that homosexual conduct is a sin.

The point in this statement that got my panties in a bunch is the statement that the Hate Crimes Prevention Act is solely for the purpose of  prosecuting Christians for expressing opinions that homosexuality is a sin. The TMLC has ignored the portion of the Act named for Mr. James Byrd, Jr., who was not a homosexual. Mr. Byrd was a black man who was tied to the back of a pickup truck by Shawn Allen Berry, Lawrence Russell Brewer, and John William King.  They then drove the truck three miles serving the truck from side to side.  Byrd survived the dragging until his body hit the edge of a culvert cutting off his arm and head.

In spite of the passage of the Hate Crimes Prevention Act, it is still perfectly legal for a preacher to preach that black people are cursed by Hamm (at least in the United States).  Such preaching was a common tool of white southerners to promote segregation of the races.  The Act has done nothing to silence that opinion.

While it is perfectly legal for preachers to preach such hateful and ignorant opinions, it is not legal for them to tie a man to the back of a pick up and drag him down the road until his death.

It is also perfectly legal and very common for preachers in the United States to opine that homosexuality is a sin; however, it is not legal for the preachers to pistol whip gay people, tie them to a fence and attempt to expedite our trip to hell.  Murder is not an action protected by free speech.

On Wednesday, July 14, 2010 at 3:00 p.m., Federal District Court Judge Thomas L. Ludington heard Attorney General Eric Holder’s Motion to Dismiss in the Glenn v. Holder matter. The case is the first court challenge to the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act.

To date, the Judge has not entered an Order granting or denying the motion. According to a statement issued by The Thomas Moore Law Center:

“The Thomas More Law Center… filed the federal lawsuit in February of this year challenging the constitutionality of the federal Hate Crimes Act, against U.S. Attorney General Eric H. Holder, Jr. The Act adds violence based on “sexual orientation” and “gender identity” alongside race and color motivated violence deserving special federal protection by means of tougher criminal penalties.

The lawsuit was filed in the U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Michigan, on behalf of Pastor Levon Yuille, Pastor Rene Ouellette, Pastor James Combs, and Gary Glenn, the president of the American Family Association of Michigan (AFA-Michigan).

The sole purpose of this law is to use the threat of federal prosecutions and long jail sentences to silence Christians from expressing their Biblically-based religious belief that homosexual conduct is a sin.”

The key point and the most “stupid thing” being said in this statement is that the Hate Crimes Prevention Act *SOLELY* prosecutes an expression of opinion that homosexuality is a sin. The TMLC has ignored the portion of the Act named for Mr. James Byrd, Jr., who was not a homosexual. Mr. Byrd was a black man who was tied to the back of a pickup truck by Shawn Allen Berry, Lawrence Russell Brewer, and John William King. They then drove the truck three miles serving the truck from side to side. Byrd survived the dragging until his body hit the edge of a culvert cutting off his arm and head.

In spite of the passage of the Hate Crimes Prevention Act, it is still perfectly legal for a preacher to preach that black people are cursed by Hamm (at least in the United States). Such preaching was a common tool of white southerners to promote segregation of the races. The Act has done nothing to silence that opinion.

While it is perfectly legal for preachers to preach such hateful and ignorant opinions, it is not legal for them to tie a man to the back of a pick up and drag him down the road until his death.

It is also perfectly legal and very common for preachers in the United States to opine that homosexuality is a sin; however, it is not legal for the preachers to pistol whip gay people, tie them to a fence and attempt to expedite our trip to hell. Murder is not an action protected by free speech.

I will be watching the case closely and “praying” that Judge Ludington will expedite this cases demise and dismiss it as requested by Attorney General Holder.

A Little Perspective for the National Organization for Marriage

July 19, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Featured, Thought of the Gay

In a recent video put out by the National Organization for Marriage (NOM), an organization devoted to preventing equal protections for certain citizens of the United States, a woman with tears in her eyes tells the story of how she was bullied and intimidated by LGBT rights activists during the hate fest.  What was the crime?  The protesters blocked her view with their signs!  Here’s the video:

This isn’t the first time NOM has played the victim card. Throughout their campaign to prevent same-sex couples from having hospital visitation rights, paying equal taxes, enjoying the same retirement benefits and generally pursuing their own happiness, NOM representatives have attempted to paint the LGBT community as oppressive radicals who are out to destroy America. Now it’s time for a little perspective:

These are the faces of our dead.  These are the faces that anti-lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or transgender sentiment said it was ok to harass, beat and even kill.  On average, over four LGBT people are victimized by a hate crime each day.  Hetersoexuals are victims of sexual orienation bias crimes at a significantly reduced 0.01 per day.  In fact, there has not been a single reported case of an LGBT person murdering a hetersexual person simply because they are heterosexual.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again here, it’s time for NOM to come down off their cross – someone else might want to use it.

TABC Commissioner and Texas Vice Chair of the Republican Party Defends Anti-Gay Platform

July 14, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Discrimination, Featured

Melinda Fredricks Defends Texas GOP Platform's Anti-Gay HateBy now you’ve heard about the Texas GOP Platform and it’s anti-gay tirade.  Perhaps you’ve even read through all 25 pages of the Platform and noted the harsh stance on immigration, the inclusion of God in society, the importance of protecting symbols over individual freedoms and other heinous “conservative” propaganda.

Now, the Texas Republican Party Vice Chair, Melinda Fredricks, has spoken out in defense of the Platform’s views that homosexual acts should be re-criminalized claiming that the radical homosexual agenda is to blame.  Apparently, Ms. Fredrick believes that the push to repeal the discriminatory, unconstitutional Defense of Marriage Act is reason enough to outlaw same-sex conduct.

In her statement published via the Montgomery County Courier, a local paper published by Ms. Fredricks’ husband, Ms. Fredricks stated (for herself and not on behalf of the party):

… a large portion of our base is Christian, and we believe that homosexuality is contrary to what God says is appropriate behavior.  People feel threatened that their children have to be taught that it’s an equal lifestyle to heterosexuality.  At the same time, you can’t say people are subhuman. (Homosexuals) still deserve the dignity entitled to them.

It should be noted that the Platform clearly supports putting the evangelical Christian version of “God” into legislation.

I almost feel sorry for Ms. Fredricks though.  Apparently, her idea of dignity is to charge people who love each other with the crime of “Sodomy” – which under Texas law was defined as being exclusive to homosexual acts prior to being deemed unconstitutional by the Supreme Court in Lawrence v. Texas. If that’s the most dignified she’s felt in her life, she is missing out.

Ms. Fredricks is not only anti-gay, but she also serves as one of three TABC Commissioners, the policy-making body the Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission, and has done so since 2008 after being appointed by Rick Perry.  As you may recall, in June, 2009, Ft. Worth Police and two Texas Alcoholic Beverage Commission agents raided the Rainbow Lounge, a gay bar in the DFW area.  During the raid, Chad Gibson was critically injured and spent days in the hospital… but don’t worry, the agent that *allegedly* injured him treated him with dignity before bashing his head.

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: National Organization for Marriage

July 14, 2010 By: geekgirl Category: Featured, LGBT Lessons for Straight People

LGBT Lessons for Straight People - Why Equality MattersIf you haven’t heard of Maggie Gallagher, you aren’t gay. Maggie Gallagher was the face of the National Organization for Marriage, a group that has poured millions of dollars into a battle to prevent the legalization of same-sex marriage. Now, NOM is on tour this summer, the Summer for Marriage Tour. Today, July 14th,  is their first stop in Augusta, Maine. From sea to shining, um, cornfields. Yes. They won’t cross the Mississippi River.

Maggie’s argument is that same sex marriage will destroy the traditional marriage. Of course, there is no evidence for this. The Prop 8 trial proved that.  Maggie and Brian Brown are simply damaged people with a twisted way of trying to solve their own dysfunctional issues.

Maggie was a single mom. Now, I have a lot of sympathy for single parents. Parenting is hard work. I cannot imagine how difficult it would have been for me if I had not had my husband.

Ironically, Maggie is the President of the Institute for Marriage and Public Policy. I have absolutely no idea if this organization is legitimate or has anyone with any intelligence working there.

But let’s pretend for the sake of this post that they do. I’ll tell you why. On their website, you can find a report called “The Taxpayer Costs of Divorce and Unwed Childbearing: First-Ever Estimates for the Nation and All Fifty States.” I have not read every word. But I’ve scanned it and cannot find one word about same-sex marriage.

Instead, this is what I found. Something that LGBT activists have been pointing out. Only this time, with numbers.

Let’s look at the highlights of this report.

These important changes in family structure stem from two fundamental changes in
U.S. residents’ behavior regarding marriage: increases in unmarried childbearing
and high rates of divorce.1 More than a third of all U.S. children are now born outside
of wedlock, including 25 percent of non-Hispanic white babies, 46 percent of
Hispanic babies, and 69 percent of African American babies.2 In 2004, almost 1.5
million babies were born to unmarried mothers.

Evidently it is important to point out the racial breakdown of these statistics.

78.5% of children living in single parent families live with their mother.

The Institute mined available public data for government costs associated with different types of households.

Here are a few examples:

Families receiving       Food Stamps                           Assistance                   Medicaid

Married                                        3.9%                            3.6%                            15.4%

Single Male Parent                   8.6%                            7.8%                            27.9%

Single Female Parent              26.%                            17.2%                          45.6%

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that, in general, women earn less than men, and that often times both parents work in a two parent home. So is this really a surprise to anyone? Not to me.

The Institute went further and looked into other forms of government aid. These numbers are for single parent female households only. I do not know how they calculated the impact on the justice system, other than to state that kids in single parent homes are more likely to get into trouble. The actual number isn’t my point though. So, let’s just assume again that these numbers are real.

These numbers are in billions

Justice System                                                                                              $19.3

TANF – Cash Assistance                                                                            $5.1

Food Stamps                                                                                                  $9.6

Housing Assistance                                                                                     $7.3

Medicaid                                                                                                          $27.9

SCHIP                                                                                                                $2.8

ChildWelfare                                                                                                   $9.2

WIC                                                                                                                     $1.6

LIHEAP                                                                                                             $0.7

Head Start                                                                                                        $2.7

School Lunch and Breakfast Program                                                   $3.5

Additional U.S. Income Taxes Paid                                                        $6.1

Additional FICA Taxes Paid                                                                       $9.4

Additional State & Local Taxes Paid                                                       $6.8

Total U.S. Taxpayer Cost of Family Fragmentation        $112.0

That’s a nice tidy sum of $112 billion. You’ll notice that they call this family fragmentation. Here’s what I call it:

  • An opportunity to educate people about birth control. In school. When they are teenagers. Not abstinence.
  • Make the morning after pill available. Make condoms available.
  • Provide more opportunities for education for women and minorities.
  • Provide more job opportunities for single parents. Encourage employers to provide part-time jobs and child care subsidies.
  • Last, but not least, as a society we need to support couples when they are going through rough times. We all benefit from extended families, even when we argue about breast feeding versus bottles, spanking or not, church or not. Families have bonds, despite their differences.

Here’s what else I have to say.

What is the rate of unwanted children among gays and lesbians? I’m guessing fairly low if your sex partner is of the same gender. Kudos, you aren’t contributing to this government expenditure.

Maggie and her friends need to focus on heterosexuals. We are a huge problem. We cost the government billions of dollars. We behave irresponsibly and we expect our government to bail us out. Right Maggie?  We endanger our children when we cannot provide for their physical and emotional needs. We tear our children apart with our 50% divorce rate. We tear our spouses apart with our adultery or domestic violence.

Now let’s think about this. How will keeping couples of the same gender from marrying solve any of these problems? How does banning same sex marriage reduce this huge government expenditure?

NOM? What is your answer?

jaysays.com contributor geekgirlgeekgirl: Jude, the author of this post, is a straight woman, a mom and has been married for 32 years to the same wonderful man. She believes in Buddhism and attends the United Church of Christ. She is a molecular biologist, her best friend is a lesbian, and she believes that every human deserves equal rights, respect and a life free from hate, fear and discrimination. The only thing she hates is pickles. Her science blog can be found at LGBT Latest Science. More of LGBT Lessons for Straight People can be found here.

LGBT Lessons for Straight People: Gay Hypocrisy

July 12, 2010 By: geekgirl Category: Featured, LGBT Lessons for Straight People

LGBT Lessons for Straight People - Why Equality MattersThe Today Show recently changed the rules of their wedding contest to allow same sex couples to enter. This change came about pretty quickly through civil discussions and reminders that same sex marriage is legal in several states. While it is not legal to get married in New York, New York will recognize a same sex marriage performed in a different state.

The Today Show had to know that this decision would create a firestorm from people who do not approve of same sex marriage. The comments on The Today Show Facebook page and The Today Show website went wild.

I like to follow reader comments. It’s hard to find something new. I still haven’t heard one logical argument against same sex marriage. In these discussions, there are plenty of Bible thumpers and those that insist homosexuality is a choice and a lifestyle. And there are always the pro-equality folks with something to say. Inevitably, someone will use words like bigots or haters.

Their newest response is:

Gays are all about tolerance and acceptance except when it comes to people who don’t agree with them.

Gay hypocrisy. What an interesting claim. You want gay people to accept your desire to keep them from having rights? I think you are missing the point. Returning tolerance and acceptance would be gay people accepting that you are straight, accepting that you deserve the same legal rights as LGBT people.

No one who supports marriage equality is ever going to buy your arguments. Did you follow the trial in California on Proposition 8? My bet is that you didn’t. The right wing groups did a remarkable job of preventing it from being televised. They also were a miserable failure, with all witnesses dropping out of the case except for one, who ended up saying that legalizing same-sex marriage would probably benefit society. The transcripts are online.

There are no arguments that hold water. The Bible was written by people hundreds of years ago. Your belief that it is the word of God does not make it so. Your cherry picking is obvious. You can’t disguise your bigotry behind religion. There is no proof that gay people are pedophiles or desire to recruit your children. It isn’t a lifestyle. It isn’t a choice.

There is no proof that legalizing same sex marriage will open the door to polygamy or marrying sheep. The implication, of course, is that gay sex is deviant. Otherwise, why don’t we have legal heterosexual polygamy and legal heterosexual marriages to animals? Why will this happen only if we legalize same sex marriage? Ah. It’s about sex.

I have to say, my respect for Mike Huckabee went up. For years he hid behind religion to argue why he is against gay rights. He finally came out and said that he finds gay sex icky. Kudos Mike, for having the courage to be honest. Now get over it. No one is asking you to engage in gay sex, which by the way is legal. They are asking for equal rights. 1138 rights given to married couples under Federal Law. Equality, as guaranteed under the 14th amendment.

Now try this. Lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender individuals are just like you and me. They want the same things. The list could not be more normal or more boring. The right to a legal commitment to their relationships: to provide for each other and protect their families; to go to work; to be treated fairly and with respect; to serve in our military; to become ministers. It’s so boring it sounds conservative.

Acceptance and tolerance. You aren’t giving it – yet you expect it in return? Be careful who you demean and degrade. It could be someone you love. Open your mind. Open your heart. You do know someone gay. I assure you that you do. Stretch beyond your assumptions. Take the challenge to get to know a gay person Today.

jaysays.com contributor geekgirlgeekgirl: Jude, the author of this post, is a straight woman, a mom and has been married for 32 years to the same wonderful man. She believes in Buddhism and attends the United Church of Christ. She is a molecular biologist, her best friend is a lesbian, and she believes that every human deserves equal rights, respect and a life free from hate, fear and discrimination. The only thing she hates is pickles. Her science blog can be found at LGBT Latest Science. More of LGBT Lessons for Straight People can be found here.