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Stupid Things People Say About Gays: GLSEN is to Blame for LGBT Suicides

October 13, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Featured, Stupid Things People Say About Gays, Youth Issues

Bryan Fischer, the host of the American [Heterosexual Only] Family Association’s [AFA] radio show, Focal Point, recently declared on an AFA blog post that GLSEN was to blame for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender suicides.  His theory, it seems, is that you can eliminate the high incidents of suicide in LGBT kids by eliminating LGBT kids.  In the posting, Mr. Fischer states:

It must be pointed out that homosexual activists are not wholly innocent in these tragedies either. Homosexuals cannot reproduce so they must recruit. Part of the agenda of groups like GLSEN (the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network) is to urge students at younger and younger ages to come out and declare a disordered sexual preference. Sexually confused youth are pressured into locking into a sexual identity far before they are mature enough to do so.

A lot of questions are raised by Mr. Fischer’s argument, the first being: “Who was the first homosexual recruiter?”  If homosexuals cannot reproduce and merely recruit, was it a straight person who first convinced someone to be a homosexual?  My guess is that it was Adam.  He had three sons and only one wife.  With such a shortage of women to put their seed into, perhaps Adam felt Eve needed a break from populating the world and suggested to Cain that he start blowing his brother to relieve his sexual frustrations.  Cain, then became the first homosexual recruiter and encouraged LGBT kids to come out.  Or perhaps it was one of the other male children.

Mr. Fischer further states that:

If criticism is bullying and harassment, then homosexual activists condemn themselves every day by the mean-spirited things they say about Christians and their views of homosexuality.

While I would concur that criticizing those that are Christian for their opinions would not necessarily constitute bullying, I must draw the line at forceful, obstructive, demeaning verbal abuse such as that experienced by LGBT youth.

For myself, I was harassed daily for my perceived (and ultimately actual) sexual orientation.  I had the word “fag” scrawled into the side of my car; I was chased home by kids throwing rocks and slurs at me; my friends were approached at their employment and harassed for hanging out with a fag; I was told by a teacher to, “act like a man;” I was spit on, laughed at and was terrified to go to school because the so-called Christian opinion was not that I was a sinner, it was that I was a worthless faggot.  All of this happened before my 18th birthday, most before I “came out.”  Never, in all the times I was approached with negative commentary about my sexual orientation in school was it to convince me that I was a sinner and needed to repent.  Instead, it was to intimidate me into submission, deny me my right of free passage or to just give me a sucker-punch.

In spite of Mr. Fischer’s efforts, it has gotten better.  Now, I’m called a fag only about 2 or 3 times per month instead of every day.  That’s better, but it’s still not good enough.

So, Mr. Fischer, I’m left with one more question, “How many times have gays knocked on your door to recruit you?”  I’ve certainly had a lot of your ilk try to recruit me through the love of Jesus Christ (which in my experience feels a lot more like spit in the face).

If you are considering taking your own life, please seek help.  Call the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386.

Fear, Freedom and Shaving your Head

January 06, 2010 By: jaysays Category: Commentary, Featured, Thought of the Gay

Recently, I stumbled upon an article online which captured my attention.  It was a first person account of a heterosexual woman who decided to shave her head.  While the account was from the mid-1990’s, it expressed something that rings true even today:

For the first few weeks after I shaved my head, I walked around very nervously, convinced that people were going to jump out of alleys and beat me up for being a lesbian.

Because I am straight and have a lot of straight friends who I am certain are totally disinterested in hurting my large number of gay friends, I knew that not all straight people hate all gay people. That didn’t matter. I was still nervous.

In some ways, the post reminded me of the conversation I had with Jane Wishon, a straight alley working hard in California to overturn Proposition 8.  But I also noted that the author, Kaitlin (aka Ducky), expressed fear that being perceived to be a lesbian would result in physical harm to her.

This got me to thinking about how successful those in the heterosexual community that devote their lives to tormenting LGBT people have been at promoting terror.  (This isn’t the first time I’ve implied – or even outright stated – that organizations such as the National Organization for [Heterosexual Only] Marriage and the American [Heterosexual Only] Family Association are terrorist groups; however, Kaitlin’s story reinforces my opinion.)

These organizations may think they are simply keeping marriage contracts from being entered into by same-sex couples, but through their lies to defend marriage from a same-sex takeover, they are propagating the idea that it’s ok to harm LGBT people.  The result is fear within our community, like that felt by Kaitlin.

Kaitlin was lucky as she didn’t experience any violence against her person.  Unfortunately, not all LGBT people (or those perceived to be LGBT) are as lucky as Kaitlin.  According to the 2008 FBI Hate crimes Statistics, there were 1673 victims of a bias based crime due to their status as LGBT – over four victims per day.  [For clarification, the term victim can include businesses/organizations as well as persons.  The calculations also exclude the 33 incidents of purported bias crimes based on heterosexual status (roughly 1 per every 10 days)].

But fear only has the power that we give it – and boy do we ever give it power.  As examples, Christopher and I rarely, if ever, hold hands in public; many of my friends speak in gender neutral terms about their spouses or boyfriends/girlfriends when among strangers; a heterosexual ally was convinced to remove the equality stickers by a fellow queer because he was afraid she would get hurt or her car would be broken into as she lives and works in a very small, rural, conservative town.

Until we can truly conquer that fear, we will not obtain equality or freedom – we will remain, marriage equality or not, victims of the majority tyranny.  I for one am tired of being a victim.  How about you?

Stupid Things People Say About Gays: Hate Crimes Legislation Will Protect Incest and Pedophilia

April 28, 2009 By: jaysays Category: Stupid Things People Say About Gays

Stupid Things People Say About GaysI haven’t done a “Stupid Things People Say About Gays” in a while.  Lots has been happening, but there’s certainly no shortage of stupid things people are saying.  Here’s the latest from the AFA (American [heterosexual only] Family Association):

Congress is set to give legally protected status to 30 sexual orientations, including incest. Because of pressure from homosexual groups, Congress has refused to define what is meant by sexual orientation in H.R. 1913, the “Hate Crimes” bill. This means that the 30 different sexual orientations will be federally protected classes.

Come on now… how much more ridiculous can you get.  Someone call Bullshit already…. ok, “BULLSHIT!”  Here’s the actual text of the bill, which states what a “Hate Crime” is:

[A Hate Crime ] is [a crime] motivated by prejudice based on the actual or perceived race, color, religion, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, or disability of the victim, or is a violation of the State, local, or tribal hate crime laws.

Now, because I like to play God’s Advocate and show this in a more telling light, I’ll be the first to admit that “sexual orientation” is not currently legally defined by the Hate Crime’s legislation; however, to argue that “incest” is a sexual orientation rather than a sexual act is completely bogus, speculative and would never hold up in any legitimate argument – not that the AFA is renowned for “legitimate” arguments.  Generally, when the law fails to specifically define a term, the term is given its “usual and customary meaning.”  In this case, sexual orientations usual and customary meaning is:

One’s natural preference in sexual partners; predilection for homosexuality, heterosexuality, or bisexuality.  [sexual orientation. (n.d.). Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1). Retrieved April 28, 2009, from Dictionary.com website: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/sexual orientation]

One may note that neither the word incest nor bestiality is referenced in the usual and customary definition of sexual orientation.

The AFA has also made claims that the Hate Crimes legislation would prevent preachers from preaching homosexuality as a sin in church; however, they obviously have not read the bill which is very specific in defining hate crimes as a “crime of violence” a term defined by Section 16, Title 18 of the United States Code:

The term “crime of violence” means:

(a) an offense that has as an element the use, attempted use, or threatened use of physical force against the person or prop­erty of another, or

(b) any other offense that is a felony and that, by its nature, involves a substantial risk that physical force against the person or property of another may be used in the course of committing the offense.

Therefore, unless the preacher specifically uses, attempts to use or threatens the use of physical force against a person or their property, they can say whatever they want.  If you are a member of a church that does use, threatens to use or attempts to use physical force against ANYONE, I highly suggest you realize that only SATAN would allow such treatment and consider a new church that has not been infultrated by Satan in the guise of God.  Remember, “Thou Shalt Not Kill.”

More from fellow blogger, SistersTalk.

Christian Right Wingers Claim Gay Friendly Christians to be “Another Religion”

January 13, 2009 By: jaysays Category: Commentary, Religion

The American Family Association [a group which I’ve always thought to be misleadingly named] is at it again, this time declaring that those that support gay rights and equality are not Christians, have laid down the gospel and essentially created another religion.

The comments made by Jeff Chamblee on AFA Report (January 12, 2009) were spawned by Gene Robinson’s appointment to speak at the Obama Inauguration.

You can’t have an understanding of man that he can simply make up his faith as he goes along… for man to lay that down and say I’m just going to give you something that applies to all men is tantamount to another gospel, another religion that’s completely foreign to the gospel.

As I listened to the audio version of this posted on one of my favorite gay blog sites Good as You, I couldn’t help but think that the AFA has done it again, ostracized more Christians from their “Family Association.”  We all know that many Christians have committed the very same self-serving changes to their religion of which Mr. Chamblee complains.  For example, many Christians I’ve met eat bread which is leavened, have charged or paid interest, worn blended fabrics, acted unjustly, eaten rare steaks, lobster, shrimp or a rack of ribs.  I don’t know any Christians that have not participated in slave trading or sold their daughters nor any that have sacrificed a lamb.

Before hypocritically telling Christians that those who alter the gospel to fit men rather than staying within the confines of scripture, Mr. Chamblee had this to say about Obama’s inauguration:

I am really hurt and broken at what’s happening here because you are seeing played out on the national stage a man who goes under the banner of Christian and carries the name of Christ doing something that is an absolute abomination and doing it with no shame, doing it under the guise of love and mercy and understanding, and we see people being lolled to sleep and hypnotized by this and deceived into the fact that well hey this is just another branch of Christianity this is just another idea.  You know, you cannot carry the name of Christ and have such a misunderstanding of God and his holiness.  [emphasis added]

The most frightening aspect of Mr. Chamblee’s commentary is that he is considered by many to be a man of “God” and thus honest and forthright.  That’s been the real problem in defending ourselves against such religious intolerance and filthy lies – if we call them on their lies, deceit and hypocrisies, many believe we are attacking God and the Church, when in reality, we are defending ourselves from power hungry so-called Christians whose hypocrisy has grown to *cough* Biblical proportions.  People like Mr. Chamblee are the ones deceiving people into believing that they speak true – they are the ones promoting the use of God as a great sword. They have launched a “crusade” against LGBT people and will continue to justify the rapes, beatings and murders of LGBT people under the premise of our blood being on our own hands.  Of course for many of them, while they are fighting so hard, they are tapping their toes in a rest area bathroom or paying male prostitutes to satisfy their own sexual desires.  They then crawl back to their church with their apologies and repentance and suddenly, everything is fine for them – until the next time they are caught.