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Lessons from the Golden Girls: Everyone Wants Someone to Grow Old With

August 19, 2009 By: jaysays Category: Commentary, Featured, Thought of the Gay

goldengirlsRecently, a Facebook friend brought a Golden Girls episode to my attention . I’m a huge fan of the Golden Girls and regularly watch re-runs.  For some reason, I forgot about this lesson from those wiser than me (and many others), but was very grateful to rediscover it and laugh as I recalled all the moments I sat with my mother, Blanche, Dorothy, Sophia and Rose and the excessive consumption of ice cream that would ensue (I wasn’t such a fan of cheesecake).

The Golden Girls aired from 1985 until 1992, when Bea Arthur left the sitcom – and in the finale left repeatedly only to come back in again and again!

I thought I would share the clip as a lesson from the Golden Girls:

Same-sex marriage has been argued and debated long enough.  All of those against it have absolutely no interest in it other than their own rigid standards of morality.  There is no harm caused by my relationship as it exists now and a marriage license will not make it any more harmful.

Now, 17 years after the Golden Girls, President Obama and LGBT organizations such as EQCA (Equality California) and HRC (Human Rights Campaign) ask us to be patient, and I find myself stuck on stupid – or are they?  This clip reminded me of just how long we have been patient.  So Mr. President, Mr. EQCA and Mr. HRC, how much longer must we be patient?

Momentum is on our side now.  A community has come forward.  The troops are ready to march — with or without Generals.

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Thank You For Being A Friend, Ms. B.

April 25, 2009 By: jaysays Category: Commentary, Thought of the Gay

Bea Arthur’s passing shouldn’t come as a surprise.  The brilliant actress and comedienne was 86 years old after all, but her death has rocked me to my core.  Perhaps I’m already sensitive after losing one hero this month already, my dear friend and companion, Crystal Quiroz, or perhaps its because Bea Arthur was more to me than just a star on TV or stage.

I grew up with Bea.  My mother and I spending countless nights watching the Golden Girls.  Even to this day, we catch the re-runs and talk gleefully about the shenanigans of those women.  Each year during cold session when my voice would go an octave lower I’d gleefully proclaim, “I sound like Bea Arthur.”  Truth be told, I sounded more like Harvey Fierstein than Ms. B, but I knew her first and always appreciated the laughs.

For all the late night, munchy-filled occasions when you and your crew of lady friends on television lifted my spirits after a long day, thank you for being a friend, Ms. B.  You will be sorely missed but fondly remembered.