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LGBT Lessons for Straight People: Marriage – Get Another Word.

September 07, 2009 By: geekgirl Category: Featured, LGBT Lessons for Straight People

Gay Education“I don’t care what gay people do, just call it something else.”  As if the word marriage is owned by religion. Marriage is a religious word. Really? Then why does it  appear on almost every form or document that you fill out?  Should we have different sets of forms now? Civil unions, domestic partnerships, marriage. If the point is to have all the same rights, why have different names? I’ll tell you why. So straight people can call attention to gay couples. “No, I’m not married. But I am in a union. A civil union.”

I checked my marriage license. Yep, I’m straight. It doesn’t have a place asking for my religion. It doesn’t ask me if I plan to procreate. Oddly, it does ask my occupation.

The word marriage is a secular word. Look it up.

It may appear in religious texts. So do the words mountain, sea and mother.  If you want a word for religious marriage, make one up. The word marriage already appears in the law. Why should we give it up to religious groups? Can you claim a word and take it out of the law for one group of people but keep it for yourself?

For those of you that think domestic partnerships or marriages in states give gay couples all the rights of marriage, you are wrong. There are no Federal Rights. If a gay couple gets their health insurance through one partner for both of them, they must pay taxes on the money that their employer spends, married people do not.

After the Defense of Marriage Act, the General Accounting Office was asked to review all federal laws that would impact marital status. As of 2004, the count was 1138 laws. One thousand one hundred and thirty eight legal rights based on marriage. Not a single one has to do with religion, procreation or even having sex. They reflect financial and legal rights.

What are a few of the benefits of being married?

  • Access to Military Stores
  • Assumption of Spouse’s Pension
  • Bereavement Leave
  • Immigration
  • Insurance Breaks
  • Assumption of Spouse’s Pension
  • Medical Decisions on Behalf of Partner
  • Sick Leave to Care for Partner
  • Social Security Survivor Benefits
  • Tax Breaks
  • Veteran’s Discounts
  • Visitation of Partner in Hospital or Prison

Why would you deny access to these federal laws to two people who love each other? What do you, as a person, lose? None of your legal rights change. It’s a lie to say that something will be destroyed. All that will be destroyed is the way that you want the world to be. A place that gives rights only to two people if they love someone of the opposite gender. Quite frankly, it doesn’t bother me if your vision of what is ok is destroyed. No one has the right to tell someone who they can or cannot marry. Especially a group of people with a 50% divorce rate and about a 20% cheating rate. Yep, we straight people have really upheld the sanctity of marriage. I’m amazed marriage is still around. As my son told me, 50% is an F in any class he took at school.

If marriage is the cornerstone of our society, then start focusing on people who get divorced.  Where is the No Marriage Left Behind Act?

jaysays.com contributor geekgirlgeekgirl: Geekgirl (Jude) is a straight woman, a mom and has been married for 32 years to the same wonderful man. She believes in Buddhism and attends the United Church of Christ. She is a molecular biologist, her best friend is a lesbian, and she believes that every human deserves equal rights, respect and a life free from hate, fear and discrimination. The only thing she hates is pickles. Her science blog can be found at LGBT Latest Science.